I love it when he fingers my ass when he is licking my pussy. But his cock feel like it is going to tear my ass apart when we have tried anal. Do you have any experience with this? Is there a good way to get used to having a nice hard cock get int here without hurting me? He doesn't pressure me to do it, I just like to try everything at least once.
That “tear your apart” feeling means it’s not ready for whatever’s been put inside of it hon. If fingers feel good then we know your ass likes penetration. I’ve had times where I have had a twinge of discomfort and I make him stop whatever forward movement he’s doing and just breath through it. It always passes quickly and is replaced by that luscious pressure that drives my clit crazy. Until your ass is use to taking things regularly here are some general warm up tips:
1. Never attempt anal when you are not feeling perfect relaxed and ready to go down there. If you are stressed or not feeling clean you will likely tense up as he penetrates you.
2. At least 5 minutes of finger play and in your case perhaps a small dildo in between the size of his fingers and cock. Think of it as a gradual stretching and warm up of the muscle. If you don’t stretch it out first it’s not going to work out well for you. Perhaps he can work in a nice glass plug and then proceed to massage you until you are squirming and ready to go.
3. LUBE…and not pussy lube it’s too thin. Anal lube is your best friend. For me…my ass doesn’t like a lot of them…I feel burning as soon as it enters my ass. So try out some water based and silicone anal lube and see what you like. If all else fails use Vaseline. Spit doesn’t count as lube and neither does pre-cum.
4. Try different positions…for the longest time I wanted to be on top and in control of the initial penetration before we’d switch where he was more in control. Above all have him take his time. If you experience pain…have him stop and wait a minute before resuming movement. If you don’t feel the discomfort dissipate quickly you need more prep or lube. Never let a man fuck you if it hurts. Your ass is made up of delicate tissues that can tear easily…and never use desensitizing lubes! You can always try playing on your own with a dildo…my ass prefers glass ones…and see if you can get yourself to a point where penetration is comfortable so you know what your body needs to get there. Bath time is always a good time to relax and experiment :)
Ok I feel pretty dumb with this question but if anywhere was a safe place to ask it would be here! Ok so two nights ago I purchased my very first dildo. I was nervous about the girth but with a little work and patience it slipped in my virgin hole like a dream! After working a bit more I was able to really get to it and fuck myself on it like an old pro, lol. But in the heat of riding my new favorite ride I ... Well how do I put this? I tried to go all the way down on it an I felt like it bottomed out in my ass! Is there a way it can do that? Or do you think it was the quick forceful push I made onto an area that was girthier that my ass wasn't ready for that caused that feeling? Did I really bottom out a mere 7" cock in my ass? All insight you might be able to give me will be appreciated! Thx D
Well darling...here is a diagram of what is going on inside your ass. Basically there is a bend where the rectum turns into the colon so depending on how long and jarring the penetration was you may feel like you bottomed out. I think the more you fuck yourself the easier your ass will take toys. Perhaps warm up a little more slowly when feeding the length in before riding it like a pro :)
Hi there, im a young guy who tries anal stimulation and pegging, my Problem is my analplug is 1 inch thick It slides in without hesitation but our strapon dildo is about 2,5 Inches thick and in realistic shape. I dont even get the head in me. Unfortunately i havent so much Time to wear my plug for hours. Can you give me any advice? Anyway love your blog, have a nice sunday :)
Asses are very accommodating…you only need plug yourself for 5 minutes…pull it out and you should be good to go! Use a ton of lube and tell her to go slowly. Try changing angles when she first enters you to see what works the best. Also some people find it helps to bear down as they are being penetrated. Good luck!! :) xoxoxo
Will you teach me how to tease and fuck my sweet virgin ass?
How to fuck your own ass in 6 easy steps:
Step 1 - Lubricate finger and massage asshole (good time to think about something sexy)
Step 2 - Insert finger slowly until your ass swallows it to the first knuckle. Take your cock in hand and stroke. (Breathe and wait for any discomfort to pass)
Step 3 - Begin moving finger in and out slowly until your ass can take it to the second knuckle. Keep stroking. (More sexy thoughts)
Step 4 - Locate that male p-spot by crooking your finger up pointed towards your balls. (Feel free to groan in pleasure once found)
Step 5 - Remove fingers once it feels like a party and grab cock-shaped toy (if no toy work in another finger) Lube it up and begin to work the head in. (Breathe, stroke, repeat…more sexy thoughts of course)
Step 6 - Once the head is in, continue stroking your cock and rock the toy in and out going deeper until the desired length is inside your ass. Feelin good? Well fuck away my friend you are officially not a virgin anymore!! :) xoxoxo
Your blog is wonderful! Thanks for actually saying what most of us women are thinking. Now for a left turn... Any tips on for 1st time anal?
Thanks hon :) Anal…sure. Prep is key…for both of you. The receiver should be nice and clean…shower and a soapy finger (mild) works for beginners. It helps to go to the bathroom first as the sensation may be there later and you don’t want to be worrying about it at that point. Next step - warming up the ass for penetration. You can use a lubed up finger (anal lube or Vaseline so it provides a nice thick barrier) to massage around the opening, this will relax the area and get your partner purring. Mouth works too if you are okay with rimming. After a few minutes of that, more lube on your finger…all the way to your first knuckle and slowly beginning applying pressure to the asshole. You will find that it will slowly open and swallow your finger so to speak. Now wait…good time to kiss and lick ass cheeks or talk dirty :) After about a minute, slowly begin working your finger in and out. Listen to your partner for ques as to whether you are going too fast, too deep, etc. At no point should this hurt. If it does go back and repeat the last step with more lube. The ass will adjust and soon your finger should be sliding in and out easily. If you plan to put a cock or toy in there you need to work up to at least three fingers depending on the size of the object you want to insert. Each time you add a new finger, hold still for about a minute before moving them in and out…check with partner along the way and follow their ques as far as depth and speed. In no time, with regular ass play you won’t need as much prep time to get the ass ready :) Have fun guys!! xoxoxox
After reading your blog and others like it, I tried being fucked in my ass (I'd already sucked cock) but I was too tight for the guys big cock. Any tips?
Wear a plug in your ass the hour leading up to your rendezvous. Most asses (ones that aren’t fucked regularly) need at least 15 minutes of fingering (first one and then up to 4 depending on the size of the cock you are about to fuck) before the ass is ready to go. I know two guys hot and horny doesn’t allow for a lot of prep work so the plug will do the trick. Just find one that stays put when you walk and you can even it wear to wherever you are meeting him. Remove it right before and your ass will be perfectly dilated :) xoxoxo