1st) I love your blog it's fantastic please keep up the good work ! 2nd) I love guys and girls and I've been lucky enough to have a couple of bi mmf threesomes, when I suck hard cock I try to deep throat as best I can, but the girls always seem to beat me taking much more in, and the next day my tonsils or back of the throat are sore, have you any advice ?

Go easy on your throat darling!  Below are some general tips to try and improve your ability to deep throat. :) xoxoxo

Things you can do before you have a cock in your mouth:

1. Relax -  Taking a cock deep in your throat only works if you’re relaxed.  Make sure you practice breathing through your nose as that is key with a mouth full of cock.

2. Desensitize-  Open your mouth, stick your tongue out, and use a toothbrush or your finger to find exactly where your gag reflex is. You’ll know when you’ve hit it because, well, you’ll start gagging.Now, take your toothbrush and scrub that area for ten seconds, or as long as you can.  Try and do this a couple times a day.

3. Play with a toy - Take a realistic dildo and practice sliding one back and holding it there for as long as you can. 

Tips for deep throating:

1. Get in the right position! You want to straighten your mouth and throat to make it as easy for yourself as possible. The best position will have your head up, or down depending on the position.  Lay on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed. This way, the path that your man takes, will be as straight as possible. If he’s much taller than you, you can also do this in a 69 position if your both lying on your sides.

3. Lube!  Make him as wet as possible before deepthroating. You can use your mouth (the most enjoyable) or try applying a lubricant to his cock (especially rhe cock head).

4. Practice!  Deep throat takes practice and like anything, the more you practice, the better you’ll become. So when you begin to feel the urge to gag, relax and hold it there as long as you can. This will raise you “resistance level” and the more you do this, the more you’ll be able to take.

5.  Stay in control. Always make sure to use a position where you can “pull out” as soon as you need to. You don’t want to find yourself chocking on him. Only deep throat if you fully trust him to not hurt you and just for extra insurance, you might want to keep one hand on his balls!
So my girlfriend finally decided to have sex and give her first bj... but when she was giving me head i couldn't come no matter how good it felt. but then i stuck it in her vagina and i swear i felt the urge to cum after a couple of thrusts and i had to pull out. any tips on how to teach her to make me cum from oral alone.. p.s i ended up having to jack myself off and have her put mouth on dick when i was about to cum for me to finish.

I’m going to assume this is your first bj?  Otherwise I’d suggest you just tell her what you enjoy and what puts you over the edge.  I’ve heard this from several guys lately and it’s strange to me because I was always under the impression that oral was the ultimate stimulation for a guy.  If it felt good I’m not sure why you couldn’t cum from it.  I can tell you what my guy likes…

1. Eye contact and moaning - he needs to know I’m loving it!

2. Variation…don’t just bob in place like a bobble head…the tip, underside and shaft should all be played with separately. 

3. That little trail of spit from my lips to his cock when I pull back and smile.

4. Working his cock in as deep as I can and swallowing.

5. Playing with his balls, taint and asshole while sucking his cock.

6. Telling him to cum for me.

7. Having him cum in my mouth or on my face.

If any guys have some experience with not being able to cum via oral…please feel free to share! :) xoxoxo