FetLife is a social networking website that serves people interested in BDSM, fetishism, and kink. On its homepage, FetLife describes itself as, "Similar to Facebook and MySpace but run by kinksters like you and me.
Members may create a personal profile and list which fetishes they are "into" or are "curious about." Members can also upload pictures and videos, including sexually explicit ones often rejected by other sites. They can write journal entries (called Writings), and send and receive private messages (called Conversations) with other members.
Members can search for and join groups like "MMF Chicago", etc. You can search for groups of a particular kink in your area and begin networking.I had an account up for a month and was surprised how many kinky people were right in my backyard. I had msgs, invites to local clubs and events designed to meet people who are into the same kinks. Definite a good place to start!